You’ve hit a wall. You’ve banged your head on your desk for an hour; two; ten. Staring out the window—your go-to maneuver for the last decade—has gotten you nowhere. Is it time to give up?
Might I recommend surrendering instead?
In case this sounds confusing, there is a difference between the two options.
Giving up is about accepting failure. It’s the belief that there is no solution to your problem or if there is a solution, you’re not the one who will come up with it.
Giving up is about telling yourself that you’re not good enough, strong enough, smart enough to solve your problem. It is defeat.
Surrender is different. Rather than giving up, you’re giving over; ceding control of the situation to whatever power you are most comfortable with—God, time, the elements, the universe.
Surrender is about believing that not only is there an answer to the problem, but also you are capable of delivering that answer—just not without help.
We all know what giving up looks like. It’s turning off the laptop with a frown, and maybe a sigh with drooping shoulders. And almost always, it comes with a fear or reluctance to turn the computer back on.
Surrender is calmly closing the laptop of letting it go idle while you take a walk, read a book or vegetate in a coffee shop. It can even including reviewing your work-to-date if you focus on what’s working, what you’re happy with.
The answer is there for you to pluck, but it’s waiting for you to drop your focus. Like that white spot on the inside of your eyelid that moves every time you try to look at it, the answer doesn’t like your stare, so it hangs in the periphery.
That may actually be source of some of your frustration: the knowledge or sense that the answer’s nearby, but you can’t see it.
Don’t give up. You can do it.
You just need to have faith in your universe and surrender the control you never really had.